"Is that a trick question?" He fires back, almost reflexive, and now his eyes are sparkling again. But it's a fair assessment. Tony is almost as stubborn as Steve is. They're more likely to butt heads than for one of them to railroad the other.
He sobers again when he's offered the floor, and nods, taking a moment to think it over. Not because he doesn't know what he does and doesn't want, but because sorting it out into words is tricky.
"What I like on the receiving end and what I'm comfortable giving are very different things," he says after a moment. "When I'm subbing, I want to get hit as hard as the other person can hit me. Literally and figuratively. It's like I want the pain to just...remind me I'm strong enough to handle it. And orders so I don't have to think too hard."
"Just for your information. I know we're not working from that angle." At least not to start with. Terms are negotiable as they go forward.
"When I'm topping, my first impulse is usually aesthetic. Artistic bondage, wax play in colors, that kind of thing. It's relaxing, putting someone into positions where I want them and just enjoying the results. I do sketches sometimes, with permission. Usually I let the other person keep them for privacy's sake. It's more about the process, anyway."
He glances at Tony's wrists briefly, as if checking for the bruises that were there the night before. "With pain play, I'm really leery of impacts. It takes a hell of a lot of concentration not to hit too hard, so if that's something you want to explore, just know it's a lot of work for me and I may have to call a stop if I feel like my control is off."
"And I just don't like heavy humiliation, giving or receiving. Kneeling or crawling are on the table, but I'm not going to verbally abuse you. I'm more likely to be...encouraging."
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He sobers again when he's offered the floor, and nods, taking a moment to think it over. Not because he doesn't know what he does and doesn't want, but because sorting it out into words is tricky.
"What I like on the receiving end and what I'm comfortable giving are very different things," he says after a moment. "When I'm subbing, I want to get hit as hard as the other person can hit me. Literally and figuratively. It's like I want the pain to just...remind me I'm strong enough to handle it. And orders so I don't have to think too hard."
"Just for your information. I know we're not working from that angle." At least not to start with. Terms are negotiable as they go forward.
"When I'm topping, my first impulse is usually aesthetic. Artistic bondage, wax play in colors, that kind of thing. It's relaxing, putting someone into positions where I want them and just enjoying the results. I do sketches sometimes, with permission. Usually I let the other person keep them for privacy's sake. It's more about the process, anyway."
He glances at Tony's wrists briefly, as if checking for the bruises that were there the night before. "With pain play, I'm really leery of impacts. It takes a hell of a lot of concentration not to hit too hard, so if that's something you want to explore, just know it's a lot of work for me and I may have to call a stop if I feel like my control is off."
"And I just don't like heavy humiliation, giving or receiving. Kneeling or crawling are on the table, but I'm not going to verbally abuse you. I'm more likely to be...encouraging."